If you’re short on time, I’ll share the strategy upfront; if you want more intimacy, yield.
In its most basic form, to yield means to give or to surrender. When we surrender, we give up something; and usually it’s something we want to keep. Just the thought of “giving up” makes me feel like I’m losing, and I immediately want to close up so that I can hang on even tighter, but stay with me because you’ll appreciate the results.
Look at the shape of a yield sign:
Now, imagine you with your arms lifted, open at your sides; giving praises to our creator: you are yielding. How much improved would our relationships be if we took this posture with our spouses (or ex), leaders, peers or anyone whom we wanted an improved relationship? Romans 12:10 (NIV) instructs us:
Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.
Admittedly, when I decided to practice honoring others above myself, my biggest fear was being used. I would love to tell you that my fear was unfounded but that would not be truthful; some people viewed me as a doormat. What I can tell you is that God judged my heart, and what they meant for evil, He turned for my good (Romans 8:28). I grew spiritually, I developed meaningful relationships, my business prospered, and I experienced financial stability; things I had worked decades for–with little results. The highest yielding we should all strive for is to yield to the Word of God.
I’m reminded of a few lines from Mother Teresa’s Anyway Poem:
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God;
It was never between you and them anyway.
Comment below and tell us if you have ever honored someone above yourself? What happened?
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