I love talking with people; especially those with whom I have opposing views, because it expands my thinking and provides a different perspective. Recently, I had a conversation with a sister that still has me scratching my head.
I’ll spare you the details of her life; just suffice it to say that she confesses the Lord as Savior but, like some of us, she is growing in her relationship. We were discussing how ‘shady’ some people are, and she proceeded to say that she doesn’t trust anyone. As an example, when her male friends (with benefits) leave her home, she escorts them to the door, because she doesn’t want one of them to unlock a window as an entry point for burglary once she leaves. All I could say was, “WOW”!
When she finished speaking I asked, “how do you reconcile trusting a person with your body but not trusting him with your belongings?” She had an answer. She said that she can control what happens in the bed, but she could not control what he might do as he is leaving her home. She missed the point, so I rephrased, “so what you’re telling me is that you value your things more than your thang? (yes, I went there)” She replied, “no, I value myself–I just don’t trust people.” Although she didn’t admit so, I could tell that my question gave her something to think about, because she wanted to end the call quickly.
This was a great reminder of how we compartmentalize our lives, and become unable to see how the separate rooms affect the whole house. Our rooms, although separate by walls, make up the entire house (i.e., your temple) and if one of the rooms is messy, it subtracts from the beauty of the home. Change occurs when we invite the Lord into every room of our lives–especially the bedroom. Closing the door to a messy room says “Do Not Enter” so the Holy Spirit is unable to help in the places where some of us experience the most temptation.
The disordered rooms of our lives might be embarrassing to some of us, but not to God. In fact, he knew that we would make a mess of our lives; so Jesus shed His blood on the cross to clean us (e.g., our rooms) from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:7). But we must remove the do not enter signs, because He won’t trespass into the areas we don’t give Him access (e.g., override our will).
I am never embarrassed to ask God for HELP (Hear Every Little Prayer)–even with temptations in the flesh. Jesus is my example, and he, too, was tempted.
For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are–yet he did not sin. Hebrews 4:15 (NIV)
Do not overlook this: tempted in EVERY way….that includes in His flesh. Also, don’t miss, that He did not sin. And we, too, can experience temptation without sinning, if we give Him FULL access and there are no closed doors.
When our most intimate relationship is with the Holy Spirit, this leads and guides us into all truths. The truth of which spouse to marry, which job to pursue and which people to allow in our lives. Intimacy requires that we tear down the walls and open the doors–both physically and spiritually. Get naked before God, ask for HELP in your weaknesses.
Better naked with the one who has given me everything, than naked with someone who might take everything.
HELP to get started:
Dear Lord, I need you in every area of my life–particularly in my bedroom. I admit what I allow to take place is not your will for my life so I invite you into this area to make me holy–just as you are holy. Teach me to seek you as my escape during my temptations. Amen
Is God allowed in your bedroom? Why or why not?