Someone commented to me recently that I have high standards. I had not given much thought to my standards but, once I did, I realized he was correct—I do have high standards; however, I have not always had them.
I distinctly remember the days, not too long ago, when I did not have any standards–none–zippo. Not only did I not have standards, I did not set boundaries, and both are important. As you might imagine, life was difficult for me. People could do and say anything, and I would “take it on the chin.” Why? Primarily, because a spirit of rejection ruled my life; therefore, I would do almost anything for people to accept me.
As you might imagine, I attracted the wrong people—users, abusers, and people who would want to take advantage of me. It was commonly known that I would forgive, overlook and forget about offenses. The one exception was my daughter; as I was the total opposite with her. Not only do I have boundaries and standards for her; they are erected very high.
Now, I have the same for myself, however, my boundaries and standards came from a question God asked me.
I was in my daughter’s room when He asked a question that opened a floodgate of tears: “why don’t you let D watch certain movies?” I have had enough of His questions to know that He was setting me up, so I sat down before answering. I said, “because I don’t want her exposed to the language and X-rated scenes.” He continued, “and how do you think I feel about you?”
I Was WRECKED…..
You see, I know that He loves me far more than I love my daughter–I don’t even have the capacity to love as He does. And it is because of His great love for me, that I learned the key that led to my having standards and setting boundaries:
To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us ACCEPTED in the beloved. Ephesians 1:6
I learned that a person’s rejection of me only mattered to the degree that I needed their acceptance. And once I learned that I have already been accepted and loved by the best–what more did I need?
And the same is true of you. God loves you and He accepts you and He longs to have an intimate relationship with you.
Talk to him right now…..He is waiting and He is always listening.