I am fascinated by people; how they grew up, what caused them to make some of the choices they have made, and where they are now. We are exceptional beings whose complexities I find interesting. I talk to people from all walks of life because they help me in my eternal quest of studying people to learn why we do what we do.
I have read a lot regarding the nature vs. nurture debate, and both sides have valid arguments:
- The nature advocates believe that our characteristics come from our parents and cannot be changed.
- The nurture advocates believe that we are more influenced by our environments over our genealogy.
Personally, I believe it’s a combination of both and if you forced me to choose one over the other, I would probably give nature 51% and nurture 50%. I certainly had some of the same characteristics as my parents (good and bad), and I also grew up in environments that were not conducive to positive growth; however, it would be tough to decide which had the worst impact. For me personally, I have settled the debate….Studying the Word of God has been the greatest tool that God has used to radically transform my life and make the nature vs. nurture debate rather pointless. Despite the poor parenting and less-than desirable environments that I was exposed to, the Word of God has taught me that:
- Before I was formed in the womb (my Genesis or beginning), God knew me. I was not an accident. My life has purpose. (Jeremiah 1:5)
- Although my mother and father neglected me, God properly parented me (Psalms 27:10).
- I have been adopted into the family of God (Ephesians 1:5).
- I am created in the image of God; therefore, I have His characteristics (Genesis 1:27).
- Despite the mistreatment by others, God had a plan to prosper me and give me a hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11).
- This world (environment) is full of trouble, but Jesus has overcome the world. And so can I (John 16:33).
The Word of God really does have the answers that we need in order to succeed. And despite what man has said about you, man did not create you. If you get confused on your journey, always go back to your creator and ask,:
What is your will in this matter?
Then listen. Your Father longs to converse with you. He is waiting. Run to Him.